Mel B reveals she only wore white for a YEAR after splitting from ‘abusive’ ex who controlled her wardrobe

MEL B has revealed she only wore white for a whole YEAR after splitting from her “abusive” ex.

The Spice girl, 45, has revealed how her ex-husband Stephen Belafonte used to control her wardrobe during their 10-year marriage.


Mel B said she only wore white after leaving her ex husbandCredit: Rex Features

Mel filed for divorce in March 2017, citing “irreconcilable differences”.

She told The Guardian: “For the first year when I left my ex, I would only wear white because I felt I was clearing myself of that.

“I didn’t even know what colour I liked any more because those choices were taken away from me for so long. And I just accepted it.”

Mel initially thought her then-husband was being “sweet” when he started buying clothes for her but ultimately realised it was part of his controlling behaviour. 

Mel was married to Stephen Belafonte for 10 years


Mel was married to Stephen Belafonte for 10 yearsCredit: Getty – Contributor

She said: ‘It starts with tiny things. ‘Oh, don’t wear that dress – I’ve bought you this dress.’ ‘It wasn’t like: ‘Put this dress on!’ It was: ‘Look what I’ve bought for you! I saw you looking at it on Net-a-Porter.’ 

“And you think: ‘Oh my God, that’s so sweet!’ when actually they’re starting to take over everything.”

Mel also told how Stephen isolated her from her family without her realising, such as discouraging her from calling her mother who she would usually speak to on the phone everyday. 

It was only when Mel began speaking to abuse victims in her native Leeds that she realised how common coercive control can be within relationships. 

The singer said she wore white as Stephen 'took away her choices' when it came to clothes


The singer said she wore white as Stephen ‘took away her choices’ when it came to clothesCredit: Instagram

Mel’s new comments come after she described her marriage to Stephen as an “impossible situation”.

She said she did find the strength to leave him but found herself going back to him.

Mel, who is now a patron for domestic abuse charity Women’s Aid, said it was only the tragic experience of her father dying that made her walk away for good.

Mel chose to wear white to 'clear herself' of her ex


Mel chose to wear white to ‘clear herself’ of her exCredit: Splash News

Speaking to ITV News, Mel said: “I lived in my situation for 10 years.

“I was married for 10 years and I did find the strength to leave, but then I ended up going back… it was just an impossible situation for me.”

She continued: “There was a lot going on behind the scenes and then when I finally left, it was when my father died.

“I finally had the courage to say, look no more. I left and it’s been nearly five years now, but it’s tough.

Mel was married to Stephen for 10 years


Mel was married to Stephen for 10 yearsCredit: PA:Press Association

“I’ve got amazing support…Women’s Aid and my friends and my family…and it’s really helped me get through the darkest days.”

After a whirlwind romance, Mel married Belafonte in June 2007 in Las Vegas and a year later renewed their vows in front of family and friends in Egypt.

On September 1, 2011, Mel gave birth to their daughter Madison. She was already mum to daughters Phoenix, now 22, and Angel, now 13, from previous relationships.

Mel filed for divorce from Stephen in 2017


Mel filed for divorce from Stephen in 2017Credit: Getty – Contributor

In 2014, cracks began to emerge in their marriage after he was accused of physically assaulting her when she appeared on The X Factor UK’s live Sunday show with bruises and scratches to her face and arms.

She had previously been rushed to hospital a few days before causing her to miss the live X Factor show on the Saturday.

Mel filed for divorce in March 2017, citing “irreconcilable differences”.

The star filed for a temporary restraining order from her estranged husband, too, over claims he beat and sexually exploited her.

Mel found fame as one fifth of the Spice Girls


Mel found fame as one fifth of the Spice GirlsCredit: Getty – Contributor

Belafonte denied Mel’s allegations.

In August 2018, they reached a settlement which involved the abuse charges being dropped.

Mel has now made a film in collaboration with Women’s Aid about domestic abuse.

In her interview with ITV News, which is to promote it, the singer said: “When you are in that kind of relationship, it literally feels impossible to get out because you’re isolated.

“Some women don’t have access to their phones, even their finances.

“Like in my situation, you are completely cut off from a regular normal world. What becomes your normality is living in an abusive relationship with no way out, but there is help.”

She added: “I’ve been working with Women’s Aid now for two years and it has been just an emotional but cathartic experience, because I get to sit down with women and I get to share my story.

“I get to hear their stories and the stories are very similar. So it’s been very fulfilling for me and I’m honoured to have been asked to be patron of Women’s Aid too.”

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